Why I Quit Freelancing Hair & Makeup in My 40s – Choosing Presence Over Pressure

For years, I worked as a freelance hair and makeup artist. I loved being creative, helping people feel confident, and being part of those special moments in their lives. But as I approached my 40s…something shifted.

I want to share my story, not just for others in the beauty industry, but for anyone who’s juggling too much, burning out silently, and wondering if there’s another way.

The Reality of the Hustle

I’m a mum of four, married to a wonderful husband who provides for our family, and for a long time, I thought I had to do everything.

My freelance work meant I was constantly on the go…driving to appointments, lugging my kit everywhere, managing bookings, last-minute messages, and always needing to show up at 100%. On the outside, I looked like I had it all together.

But inside? I was drained.

Living with ADHD added another layer to the chaos. I struggled with organisation, overstimulation, and an overwhelming feeling that I was always dropping the ball…either at work, at home, or with myself. I was exhausted from trying to be everything to everyone.

When Enough Was Enough

Eventually, I hit a wall. I felt like I couldn’t breathe…mentally, emotionally, and even physically. I was constantly overstimulated, yet always chasing the next thing. And I remember asking myself: Is this what life is supposed to feel like?

So, I did something that terrified me and set me free all at once…
I quit.

Creating a New Way of Living

Since walking away from freelancing, my life has changed in ways I never imagined. I’ve embraced a slower, more intentional pace. I’ve adopted minimalism…not just in my home, but in my mindset. Fewer commitments. Less clutter. More clarity.

I now use the time when my children are at school to focus on building online income streams…businesses that align with the season of life I’m in. Work I can do while the house is quiet, and pause when it’s not. No rushing. No guilt.

I can be fully present when my kids are home. I’ve been able to attend every school event, every play, every moment that matters. That means more to me than any booking ever could.

Reclaiming Peace in a Loud World

Stepping away from work outside the home helped me cut out so much external noise. And in today’s world, that noise is everywhere…especially online. The constant scrolling, comparison, and content consumption can steal your peace before you even notice it.

We’re living in a time where people are more connected than ever…and yet, so many of us feel more disconnected from real life.

That’s not the life I want. Not anymore.

Living in the Now

The past is behind me. The future is unknown.
And what I’ve learnt is that the only thing we really have…is now.

That doesn’t mean I don’t dream or plan. I absolutely do. But I’m no longer letting the future rob me of the present. I’ve realised how important it is to take a breath and just be…to feel life as it’s happening.

Life isn’t always easy. I’ve been through my fair share of trials and heartache. But I truly believe there is always light at the end of the tunnel…if you’re willing to slow down and find it.

Why I’m Sharing This

This blog…and my new YouTube channel, Shaz Official…is an outlet for me. A space where I can share my thoughts, experiences, and what I’ve learnt on this journey of intentional living.

If you’re a woman, a mum, someone with ADHD, or just feeling like you’re always in overdrive…I hope my words help you feel seen. You’re not alone. And you don’t have to live life at full speed all the time.

Thank you for being here. I’d love to hear your story too…feel free to leave a comment or message me.

Let’s start living more simply, more intentionally, and more present…together.

With love, Shaz 🤍